The Courage To Be Your Greatest Self

“I choose to experience the grandest version of the greatest vision ever I had about Who I Am.” —Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God, Book 3     “Who do you think you are?”   In our culture, that question tends to be confrontational. It implies... read more

The Courage to Say No

It can be very hard to say No, especially if we like to please people. Too often, our default is to say a compliant, people-pleasing Yes. But every time we say Yes to one thing, we are saying No to something else, because we have a limited number of hours in our day,... read more

The Courage to Change

I’m kicking off a new season of blog posts, on the subject of COURAGE. And I’d like to ask for your help. I’m embarking on a new book on this very subject, so I’m using these blogs to pilot my ideas. I’d love to get your feedback. Agree?... read more

Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life

To round off my series of lessons learned on the ocean (which started on February 11th with The Retrospective Perspective) , we’re ending on a lighter note. I had a special playlist for extreme emergencies, and it consisted of just one song: Always Look On The Bright... read more

Be Your Own Best Friend

There were many days on the ocean – just about all of them, in fact – when I disappointed myself. I wasn’t enjoying it as much as I had wanted to, I wasn’t rowing as many hours as I’d planned to, I still felt like I was faking it rather than making it as an... read more

Making It Hard To Quit

One of the really great things about rowing across oceans is that it is logistically very difficult to quit. Once you’ve set out into the prevailing wind, you rapidly reach the point of no return, as any attempt to row back to land would require you to row into the... read more

Authoring Your Own Life

I took my first adventure – a 3-month trip to Peru – when I was 34 years old, and I was terrified. I can remember how I felt on the flight to Lima – damp of palm and wobbly of courage. I had never travelled as a back-packer before. I’d never been to South America... read more

Seeing The Bigger Picture

On my way across the Pacific from San Francisco to Papua New Guinea I had to cross the Equator, which presented me with three major challenges. First, it was unbelievably hot. A few degrees north of the Equator you enter the doldrums, so the wind dies and the sun... read more

Getting Honest About What’s Going On

I was determined, when I set out on the Atlantic, not to be one of those whingeing explorers who bangs on about how unpleasant and miserable they are finding their expedition. After all, I’d chosen to do this thing, and it was going to be fun, right? Or, actually, I... read more

Self-Righting Boats – And People

My ocean rowing boat was more than just a way to get across an ocean. For months at a time, she was my home, my life support capsule, the only part of my world that wasn’t sea or sky. At times I longed to escape the confines of this 23 x 6 foot prison cell, but mostly... read more

Perfectly Imperfect

When I set out across the Atlantic, I had a naïve vision that it would be a wonderful, serene, meditative experience. Influenced by the writings of Henry David Thoreau, I imagined that this would be my watery Walden, an opportunity for insight and enlightenment, a... read more

Connect To A Higher Purpose

I really don’t think I could have rowed the Atlantic Ocean if it had been all about me. Whatever I was trying to prove, to myself or anybody else, wouldn’t have been enough to keep me going through some of the toughest days. I needed something else. I needed to have... read more

“Can I do this?” Is A Bogus Question

During my time on the Atlantic, I spent a lot of time wondering, “can I do this?” My mind would then search through my memory banks to try and find evidence that I could indeed do this. Had I done it before? Had I done something similar before? And it would draw a... read more

We Always Have A Choice

On the Atlantic I felt really trapped. Trapped on a boat that was going far more slowly than I had expected. Trapped by my own stubborn pride into not quitting, no matter what. Trapped by the relentless routine of 12 hours of rowing a day. Then one day, my mother gave... read more

Abandon Hope?

I remember hearing my ocean rowing friend, Sally Kettle, saying that her crewmate/mother and she had banned the word “hope” from their boat. I was shocked. I’d been conditioned to think that hope was good. Where there’s life, there’s hope, and all that stuff. Surely... read more

Progress Is Not Linear

On the ocean, there would be times when I rowed like a women possessed just to stay in the same place. And other days when the winds and currents whisked me along at such a satisfying speed that it was hardly worth bothering to row. It used to drive me crazy that the... read more

The Retrospective Perspective

In the first of a new series of blog posts, I’m going to share a dozen or so lessons I learned on the ocean, that still serve me well on dry land. Some may be familiar to those of you who have read my books or have been to my talks, but if you’re anything... read more